To My Fellow Passport Bros (or those considering being a PPB),
I’m reaching out with a message to the men out there who are contemplating the idea of becoming a passport bro and making the move to the Philippines. I want to share my story, not as an anecdote, but as a testament to a life-altering decision that has brought me unparalleled joy and fulfillment.
The American Dream: A Challenging Reality (if you’re a man) Back home in the United States, the pursuit of happiness often felt like a run on an ongoing treadmill. I’ve watched friends juggle multiple jobs, struggling to make ends meet in a society that demands so much of men yet offers so little in return. Men are expected to be the providers, the foundation, the problem solver, and the sycophant in a modern relationship.
Just watch any mainstream program that discusses relationships. Whenever there are problems it’s almost always the man’s fault. If a woman cheats it’s because ‘she wasn’t getting what she needed from her man’ but if a man cheats it’s because he’s a pig that can’t control himself. Men who complain are often told to ‘man up’ or ‘be a man’ but when women complain she’s told to ‘do what’s best for you’ and ‘think about yourself’.
Even in so-called conservative shows like Dave Ramsey, he isn’t sympathetic to men to have grievances with their wives except in extreme cases.
In my church men’s group back home the brothers would often joke ‘what’s the secret to a happy marriage? saying yes dear’.
A Partner’s Support: The Cornerstone of Well-being Having an unsupportive partner can be a man’s greatest downfall. It’s a silent battle, one that chips away at your spirit, leaving you feeling undervalued and alone. This was a reality I knew all too well, and one that I was determined to change.
Embracing a New Life in the Philippines My journey led me to the Philippines, a country that welcomed me with open arms and a promise of a new beginning. Here, I found work that I am passionate about, a job that allows me to connect with the world while providing the comfort of a home, the luxury of a car, and the companionship of a loving wife.
Marriage: A Partnership, Not a Power Struggle The marriages I’ve witnessed back home often revolve around appeasement and surrender, where the mantra ‘happy wife, happy life’ is recited as gospel. It’s a phrase that sends shivers down my spine, a reminder of the one-sided relationships that are all too common. I don’t mind working 6 days a week to give my wife the best life because whenever I’m done with work she always has a warm dinner ready for me.
The Misconception of the ‘Servile Wife’ Critics of the passport bro lifestyle argue that it’s about having a submissive partner. They couldn’t be more wrong. My wife is my equal, my confidante, and my greatest supporter. She challenges me when I’m off course, and I’ve learned to value her insight, which is right on the mark more often than not. The difference is when I’m wrong she speaks to me out of love – not chastise me out of anger.
What to expect when dating a Filipina
The Simple Joys of Mutual Support Our relationship is built on mutual respect and support. I take pride in providing for our family, and she takes care of our home with love and dedication. It’s a partnership where both of us contribute in our own ways, creating a harmonious balance.
Christian Filipina: More Than a Label The term ‘Christian Filipina’ is not just a label; it represents a culture of warmth, respect, and unwavering support. It’s about finding someone who shares your values and stands by you through thick and thin.
A True Partnership: The Ultimate Team For the first time in my life, I feel like I’m part of a team. We’re not just husband and wife; we’re partners in the truest sense of the word. We lift each other up, celebrate our victories, and face our challenges together.
The Right Choice for Traditional Men The Philippines may not be the perfect fit for everyone, but for men who cherish traditional values and seek a genuine partnership, it could very well be the paradise they’re searching for – especially if their faith is important to them.
A Call to Action for Like-minded Men If you’re a man who yearns for a life of fulfillment, where your efforts are appreciated and your partnership is valued, I urge you to consider the path I’ve taken. It’s a journey that has led me to a place of contentment and purpose, and it could do the same for you.
In Conclusion: A Life Transformed As I reflect on the life I’ve built here, I am filled with gratitude. The Philippines has given me more than I could have ever hoped for—a career I love, a home that is my sanctuary, and a wife who is my rock. It’s a life that many dream of but few dare to pursue.
So, to my fellow passport bros and those on the fence, I say this: take the leap. Embrace the adventure, the culture, and the opportunity to find true partnership. It’s a decision that could redefine your life, just as it has mine.
With sincerity and encouragement,
Cam
