How to Tell if a Filipina Really Loves You

Are you interested in dating Filipinas, or maybe you already have a Filipina GF, and you want to know if she actually loves you or is just after a green card or something else that’s green? This can be a daunting thought that can linger in your mind for months or years if you don’t know the signs.

When I was dating my wife, I wondered the same thing until I figured out what to look for. Once I did that, there was no doubt in my mind that she loved me, and I didn’t have one single compunction bringing her over to the US. So without further ado, here’s how to tell if a Filipina really loves you or not.

How to Tell if a Filipina Really Loves You

Sign 1: She Stays in Contact

A Filipina in love will seek to be around you often, whether it’s in person or virtually. People in love will call often and try to integrate you into their social circles. If her feelings are genuine, she should be trying to introduce you to her friends and family to evaluate you. You’ll even hear from her at random times; for example, you’ll see a message from her waiting for you when you wake up in the morning.

Sign a Filipina doesn’t like you: you don’t hear from her. You don’t hear from her for long spans of time. I don’t care what her excuses are: whether she says she has exams, her boss is making her put in extra hours on the job, or even a death in the family. There is no reason to go days and days without hearing from someone that says she loves you.

Sign 2: She Defends You

Someone in love will defend you against all perceived attacks. When my father was dating his Filipina, he told me they were with a group of friends, and one of them (who didn’t know him) made a quip about his weight. She jumped right in before he could even reply, telling her friend, “you sure are one to talk!” in a joking but not joking way. Another time they were in Cebu, and a guy tried to overcharge my dad quite a bit (more than double) for a motorcycle rental, and she flatly told the guy, “Do you think we are stupid? Give the real price, or we go right now!”.

Sign she doesn’t like you: is indifferent to others talking about you. Nobody in love is okay with people saying bad things about their lover-even if they are true! This is why it’s really good to learn some phrases in Tagalog. If you hear words like bobo (stupid), pangit (ugly), or taba (fat) being directed at you and she does nothing or even laughs with them, that means she agrees with them and doesn’t love you–sorry.

Sign 3: She Tries to Win You Over

Filipinas are trained to want to serve their husbands to win them over. Whether you consider this to be a good or bad thing is up to you, but culturally that’s the way it is. That’s why a Filipina in love will often talk about what she will do for you, such as cooking your favorite meal, making sure your shirts are ironed and rubbing your back when you get home from work, etc.

Sign she doesn’t like you: talks about what you can do for her If she is always talking about ‘when I get my papers’ or saying things like ‘Oh honey, I hope you know how to fix cars because my brother’s car is on the fritz’ that’s a bad sign. It means she’s trying to think of ways she can use you besides your money. Many scammers use this to make themselves feign feelings for you.

Related: Why a Filipina Falling in Love Fast Doesn’t Mean She’s a Scammer

Sign 4: Filipinas in Love Are Often Jealous

If you are dating Filipinas online properly, you should never settle for the first or second girl you talk to right away. You have many options, and it’s important that you evaluate them carefully and pray on it or meditate on it, whatever you want to call it. The point is you need to give it some deep thought.

A Filipina in love will start asking about the other girls you are chatting with (yes, they know you’re chatting with other girls). She’ll start asking if you are, and then she’ll start interrogating you about the other girl(s). This turns a lot of guys off, but in fact, it’s a good sign.

Sign she doesn’t like you: is indifference If she acts indifferently to you chatting with other girls, that’s a very bad sign. Filipinos are very territorial, and almost no Filipina, no matter how educated, is okay with someone she likes talking to other girls. For more info, please read my article on Filipina loyalty.

Sign 5: Makes Fun of You

If she’s in love with you, that means she’s comfortable with you, and she’ll show that by making fun of you. The Philippines is not a politically correct society, so it’s not considered rude to make comments about someone’s weight or other defects if you know them.

If she’s making fun of you, that’s a sign that she’s comfortable enough with you.

Sign she doesn’t like you: lets other people make fun of you. Now I want to make a crucial distinction here! If you catch her only making fun of you behind your back in her native tongue, that’s a very bad sign! She should never be making fun of you to her friends behind your back; if you catch her doing that, end the relationship NOW!

Sign 6: She Wants the Best For You

A buddy of mine was dating a Filipina. Now you see, he’s a real techie that cares way more about code than his appearance. One day he told me that he wanted to go out to the grocery store to get something, but his girlfriend wouldn’t let him go out with a wrinkled shirt. She insisted he let her iron it because she didn’t want any of the neighbors to think poorly of him. He told me that’s when he knew she was the one to be his wife.

You see, love is always about the little things. When someone really loves you, you will feel it. It doesn’t need to be said. Let us not forget Matthew 7:16 know them by their fruits. Put another way–actions speak louder than words. Most Filipinas falling in love will try to hide it until they’re sure the feeling is mutual.

If she’s declaring love after the first few chats, then that’s not a good sign. If, however, you start to see the above signs, and even better, her trying to hide them, then you can know her feelings are real.

Sign 7: You’re Eating Well

“The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach” we’ve all heard that axiom and there’s no place that takes it to heart more than The Philippines. One of the ways Filipinas show their love is through cooking for you. All but the most westernized women in Manila will do their best to make sure you are pleased with their cooking.

I remember when I first started dating my finance I began losing weight. It upset her so much as she saw it as a personal failing on her part. She wanted me to eat well and be satisfied with her cooking. She saw my intentional weight loss as a sign that she wasn’t doing that. If you’re dating a Filipina and you’re not eating well–run! 

Want to Know if a Filipina Really Loves You?  – Trust  Your Instincts

There are three types of guys that look for wives in The Philippines. The first guy is way too gullible and will believe anything a nice pair of legs tells him. The second guy is so paranoid that he drives away good girls with his consistent suspicion and accusations. The last gay is the one that trusts his instincts and trusts God to guide him to the right choice. If you want to find a good Filipina to be your wife, check out my list of best Filipina dating sites. In it, I review which Filipina dating sites you should check out and which one you really shouldn’t.

Most Western Men Who Are Married to Filipinas are Happy!

I know I know you’ve heard of all the horror stories on the internet of guys who got scammed by Filipinas. I’m not going to lie to you; it does happen. But not nearly as often as you may think. Instead of relying on conjecture, we can look at real data that show that the vast majority of men who are married to Filipinas are very happy with their marriages. Check out the results of my study on Western Filipina/Marriages.   People who complain about scammers are the loudest, but they’re not the majority by a long shot.