Here’s Why a Filipina Falling in Love Fast DOESN’T Mean She’s a Scammer

A common question I get is why do Filipinas fall in love fast. Often, guys get turned off, and sometimes guys even think it’s a scam. However, I want to give you the true reasons why Filipinas fall in love quickly, and it’s not necessary what you may be thinking.

Filipinas Fall in Love Fast

There are several reasons why a Filipina may fall in love fast:

  • She has been looking for a long time.
  • She’s embarrassed because she’s still not married.
  • It could be a scam
  • Her biological clock is ticking.
  • She wants a better life.
  • She could just like you a lot.
  • Cultural Predilections

She’s Been Looking for a Long Time

The average age for a Filipino is just 22 years old. That’s why once they pass 28, they’re already considered past their prime. The Philippine culture expects a woman to be married with children by age 30. An unmarried Filipina will experience a lot of social pressure to get married.

Add to that the fact that many Filipino men are very picky and want 21-year-old virgins. A lot of Filipinas past 26 are left out in the cold. A single mother over 30 might as well be in Antarctica. Sad but true. That’s why when a foreigner who isn’t as selective as native Filipinos shows interest, she will want to latch onto him right away. THAT’S GOOD NEWS FOR YOU!

As I alluded to above, she probably embarrassed because she’s not married. Most Filipinas dream of being married and having a family. If she still hasn’t found a guy that will stick around, they may cause her to be less discerning than she should be, which is why she falls in love quickly.

 

How Fast is Too Fast?

It’s normal for a Filipina to quickly fall in love, but there is such a thing as too fast. If she’s proclaiming love in the first or second chat followed by complaints about her finances, that’s not a good sign.

RUN AWAY!

That is an indication that she’s either so desperate that she’ll accept anyone or that she’s trying to get your money; neither reason is good. I would stay away from any girl who declared love in less than two weeks. With a decent girl, you should start feeling the love vibes after a week or so, but she should have enough self-control not to say it until after at least 3-4 weeks.

Her Clock is Ticking

Most Filipinas you will meet online already have children, but if you get lucky, you can get one that doesn’t have any. If that’s the case, she’s still thinking about her schedule. Remember, most girls want children, so she needs a man to do it. If she’s past 25 and still doesn’t have kids trust me, she’s thinking about her schedule.

She Wants a Better Life

Let’s not be naive here; no matter how much they deny it, the prospect of getting out of poverty is a factor in these girls’ decision to date foreigners, and there’s nothing wrong with that either. Every Filipina has a friend or knows someone who knows someone who married a foreigner and went from rags to riches.

It would help if you didn’t despair over this fact. That’s why you have so many beautiful women to choose from!  If you’re unsure whether your Filipina actually likes you or not, I have an article on signs she really likes you and signs that she doesn’t.

She Could Just Like You

While it’s prudent to be on guard when a woman professes love quickly it doesn’t automatically make her a scammer. Sometimes you just meet someone you really click with and you see no reason to wait. I’ve met people who got married after 8 weeks and they’re still together 8 years later. It’s not good to look at her through the lens of your past experiences with Filipinas. She’s an individual just like you.

There is a Cultural Predilection to Marrying Men Abroad

Believe it or not there has been some scholarly research on this topic. The Philippines is a colonized nation being under the auspices of other nations for hundreds of years.  Unlike other Asian countries, Filipinos are far from xenophobic and a desire to know more about the world is ingrained in the culture. Therefore, many Filipinas seek foreign husbands (especially of European descent) as they see it as a way to gain knowledge about and experience the world (source).

How to React When She Falls in Love Fast

This is why it’s important to know what you want when you sign up for these dating sites. If you feel this girl, then just go with it, unless she’s also complaining about her financial woes.  I’ve seen marriages where the couple only dated for 8 weeks, and they’re still together 15 years later.

There is no specific timeline for knowing someone. If you still want to check out other options, just emphasize to her that you’re just looking for a friend right now and that you’re not ready for a relationship. This will prevent a lot of hurt feelings on both of your parts. Having said that, the results of my study of married Filipina/Western couples suggest that taking your time is key to having a successful marriage.

Resources:

How to Bring Your Filipina GF/Wife to the US

Best Dating Sites to Meet Sincere Filipinas

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Muzza Furlong
3 years ago

“Never have your wife and your house in the same country”
If you want to have a trouble free relationship

Eric Alban
Eric Alban
2 years ago

You have no clue man. Why are you generalizing them as if they’re some different species? My wife is Pilipina and nothing at all like that. We fell in love quickly. Within a couple of weeks. She is my other half. She was a single mother, didn’t marry until 31, had a child a t 32 and was abandoned by her husband a few months later. She was never pressured socially to marry, she is very smart, works a very good job as an office manager in UAE, and by no means was desperate. She never found any Kano attractive… Read more »

Lovelyshan
Lovelyshan
2 years ago
Reply to  Eric Alban

Haha thank you for depending us.

Josie javier
Josie javier
2 years ago
Reply to  Eric Alban

Ì feel sorry to those foreigner who’s been married to a bad filipina women. But not at all filipina are the same

Lily
Lily
1 year ago
Reply to  Eric Alban

I agree. Im a filipina, me and my husband met when I was 33 and he was 35, we started as friends and fell in love, eventhough at that time i just broke up with my bf and he was actually in the middle of divorce. We just met at the right time. It was not because my clock is ticking.

Last edited 1 year ago by Lily
Arielle Holland
Arielle Holland
2 years ago

did she pick you? I’m guessing not because this article reeks of bitterness, misogyny, and insecurity. In fact, this is so abhorrent that I couldn’t just sit by and be passively angry about it. It’s full of problematic generalizations and grammatical errors and it makes me wonder how anyone read this article and approved it. You’re writing for a blog dedicated to being an expat in Manila, yet all this article did was generalize the women of a country down to offensive stereotypes. If you’re living in another country simply to find a docile, submissive wife and still disrespect her… Read more »

Stevenpaulwatts
Stevenpaulwatts
1 year ago

The Filipino lady l met online is absolutely fantastic. 26,stunningly beautiful, educated, loyal, sincere caring, u name it.Absolutely leaves the Big Fat Loudmouth Western Cow for dead.Happy days boys!

Adam Hubble
1 year ago

Ive met a Filipina women too on the dating app OkCupid, she depicts herself as you describe! We video call everyday, its only been a week but I feel so strongly for her, it feels magical and we clicked instantly. Something Ive never experienced before…

ironman
ironman
1 year ago
Reply to  Adam Hubble

And then after you fall for her.. Kaboom she tells you she needs MONEY honey !!! Always the same process amigo
You will get a sob story about her mother is sick or she needs to help her family.. hear this story MANY MANY times from my dates with filpinas.

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Erick Soto
Erick Soto
1 year ago

The way it started she send me a message by messenger at 1st I thought she was a scammer. We started talking and took her like the third week to like me, she’s a single mother and her husband abandon her. We FaceTime everyday she goes to church but she never ask me a single cent And she’s smart too. But we didn’t trust each other at the beginning and we got to know each other very well. We are doing very well but not all Philippine women are the same , if you get the bad one then your… Read more »

Adam Hubble
1 year ago
Reply to  Erick Soto

I feel the same way!

ironman
ironman
1 year ago

Well Because I look like iron man and asain woman throw themselfs at me I would NEVER rush into marriege unless she was super beutiful
Wealthy and under 27

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Diggs
Diggs
1 month ago
Reply to  ironman

You look as much like Robert Downey Jr as, I look like Dwayne Johnson on steroids, which is to say, not at all. But, you do wear bitterness well. Just sayin’.

Last edited 1 month ago by Diggs