We’ve all been there. There’s this Filipina we like, we want to talk to her, we finally talk to her, then the first conversation is full of awkward silences. ALL THAT ANTICIPATION FOR NOTHING! Getting to know someone we like can be tough, especially if you’re an introvert. We all know how important first impressions are when it comes to a relationship. We all know the obvious questions ‘how old are you?’ “do you have children?’ ‘are you single?’ BTW have you eaten yet? doesn’t cut it, bro. The most important thing when you’re getting to know someone is to ask open-ended questions. If you’re not sure what to say here are some questions that can help you break the ice.
Questions to Ask a Filipina Girl You Like (w Explanations)
- What do you like to do in your time off?
- Are you working or studying?
- If working: Oh yeah, what do you do? Do you like it?
- If studying: Oh yeah, what’s your major? Why did you choose that major?
- Where’s your favorite place to visit?
- Does your family know you are talking to foreigners
- What is your view on God and spirituality?
- What are you looking for in a guy?
- How long ago was your last relationship, may I know what happened?
- Do you like to shop?
- If yes: Oh yeah, what if its something really expensive and you can’t afford it right then?
- If no: Oh okay well I’m sure you have some sort of vice (laugh a little)
- Do you live on your own or with someone else?
- Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
What Makes a Successful Relationship?
All successful relationships have 4 pillars:
- Common interests
- Shared moral values
- Compatible life objectives
- Mutual respect
Your questions on the first date or whenever you meet someone you’re interested in should be centered around finding out whether or not she fits those four criteria. Just a caveat: you don’t want to be too picky. Maybe she doesn’t quite fit into #3 for example. That doesn’t mean you should run away, it just means you need to probe to see if she’s interested in aligning herself more with your life objectives or not.
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Why I Chose These Questions
Most blogs just give you a list of random irrelevant questions to ask someone. BORING! This is the wrong approach in my opinion. Each of your questions should have a purpose, that purpose being to know whether or not this girl is actually dating material or just eye candy. Asking a girl what her favorite food is, besides being incredibly cliché, doesn’t give you much information on her character. She could love Mexican food but still be racist against Mexicans after all. If you want to know more check out my article on how to know the girl you are dating is ‘the one’.
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What do you like to do in your time off?
This could help you determine if he’s lazy or not. If she answers that she just likes to sit on the couch and watch TV when she’s not working that might be a red flag if you like to be active during your free time. This is also a great way to get her to talk about his hobbies and interests which is pillar #1 in a successful relationship.
Are you working or studying?
This is critical. You want a girl that has goals and ambitions but more importantly, you want a girl who is actually working to achieve those goals. A girl that is neither working nor studying may not have the level of ambition that you’re looking for and you could end up supporting a gold digger. It’s hard for most people to respect a woman who isn’t doing anything with her life.
What’s your favorite place to visit?
I like to ask this instead of ‘do you like to travel?’ because: A. most people will just say ‘yes’ and B. by asking her where she likes to go you can get great information on what sorts of things she likes and what she values.
Does your family know you are talking to foreigners?
This is a good question to ask because you want to know if her family is supportive of her talking to guys across the ocean. If they are that could mean she’s got a little money racket going on.
What is your view on God and spirituality?
The second pillar of a successful relationship is shared values. Someone that shares a similar view on God and spirituality is more likely to also share your moral code. Don’t be afraid to ask about politics and religion on the first date if those things are important to you.
What are you looking for in a guy?
This is really important because this will give her an opportunity to let you know if he’s truly interested in you or not. If he’s interested he’ll most likely describe obvious characteristics that you possess. For example, if you are tall and skinny she’ll say she likes tall and skinny guys.
How long ago was your last relationship, may I know what happened?
Another must-ask question. If you ask this question and she goes into some long tirade about her ex, about how they were engaged, how he cheated on her blah blah, then you know she’s not ready to be in a relationship. Trying to date a girl that isn’t over her ex is one of the worst dating mistakes guys make. What will happen is she’ll either dump you and go back with her ex, start seeing both of you at the same time, or she’ll always accuse you of cheating or some sort of dishonesty.
The reason you want to know what happened is because knowing that will give you a give a good glimpse into her personality. If she gives you some incredibly one-sided explanation that makes her look like a saint and but ex the evil villain then you’ll know she’s either immature or downright dishonest. Very rarely can a relationship failure be attributed solely to one party.
Do you like to shop?
Money is a big reason why long term relationships fail. It’s okay to like to shop but if she just buys things she doesn’t need because she, ‘just had to have it‘, that could indicate she’s impulsive and not very good with money. You can also use this question to probe into other potential vices that she may have.
Do you live on your own or with someone else?
You need to know if she’s supporting herself. Filipinos live with their families well into adulthood so that shouldn’t be a deal-breaker but this question will give you a glimpse into how she’s been living the past few years. If she’s been living with various guys over the years that’s not a good sign.
Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
Pillar #3 is to have compatible life objectives. You need to make sure your life objectives are compatible if you want a successful long term relationship that will lead to a successful marriage. It’s critical you know what her life objectives are. If she doesn’t have any objectives, then you need to know that too.
I’ll leave you with this
Just to wrap things up please remember the following:
- It’s a date, not an interrogation (still need a date? check out my list of best Filipina dating sites to meet serious girls
- Mutual respect comes from sharing the same moral values
- Your questions should be open-ended questions to determine if you guys can be compatible partners
- Try to think of what you will ask her before your first date/meeting/whatever
- Most important is to try to have fun! If it doesn’t work out at least you got practice meeting someone new!