Here’s Why Your Filipina is Asking for Money All The Time

You’ve been talking to a nice Filipina for two weeks now. Everything seems to be going great. Then you get the dreaded Skype call…

Skype Conversation

Her: Oh baby, I have a problem

You: What is it?

Her: Oh, I’m shy…

You (rolling your eyes): What is it?

Her: My lola is in the hospital, and they are demanding 20k, or they will kick her out. I don’t know what we will do. I feel so bad asking, but can you help me?

Don’t worry; we’ve all been there. Some of the other excuses include:

  • I have had the flu for 3 weeks.
  • My family has no food or soap to shower with.
  • I need a passport to go to work in Singapore.
  • My baby is in the hospital and dying, you’re my only hope, and I am sitting here praying your name to my baby!

Another two weeks wasted, and you feel a few of your heart cells die. Everything you thought about her was a lie. The whole two weeks where you were imagining walking down the aisle were a lie. She was buttering you up to ask for cash!

Related: What to expect when dating a Filipina

Why Do Pinays Ask For Money So Much?

Want to know why Filipinas always ask for money? Because they get it! One of the biggest mistakes guys try to make when dating a Filipina is trying to buy her. Guys, you can’t buy a person.

That’s what makes love so precious it’s pretty much the only thing in the universe that can’t be bought. Sometimes guys will give them gifts to show that they are serious. It’s okay to gift a teddy bear, flowers, chocolates, things like that. But money is actually a pretty thoughtless & lazy gift.

Want to know one of the best gifts a Filipina friend told me she’s ever received from a guy? Her lover made a sign with her name out of wood! It couldn’t have cost more than $10, but it took work, and it was thoughtful! That was worth more to her than $100 in her bank account.

Filipinas Ask for Money Because They Feel You Owe Them

There are some, a lot actually, Pinays who have this attitude that they’re the ones doing you a favor by dating and sleeping with you. You’ll experience this sort of attitude from the 18-24 age bracket more than any other.

For that reason, they will ask for money because they feel you owe them because they’re with you. A great way to spot one of these girls is if she has to ‘warm up’ to you. Meaning she initially seems disgusted, but then slowly, it goes away.

Poverty

If you are dating a provincial girl whose family has no father in the home and she and her mother are the breadwinners, then you can guess why she’s dating foreigners. She may genuinely be impoverished, and they need money to survive. However, in my experience, a lot of these girls are just looking for an economic shortcut. If she’s laying a whole bunch of sad stories on you from the get-go, then it’s time for you to bounce to another girl.

They Think You’re Rich…they’re right

Probably in your mind, you’re just a middle-class guy that works hard to eke out a living. In hers, and the majority of the Philippine population’s minds, you’re a millionaire.

Remember, the minimum wage here is 300 PHP, which is about $6 per day. So even someone earning a minimum wage of $8.75 an hour is equivalent to a millionaire for them.

Should You Give Your Filipina Girlfriend Money?

Guys always want to know whether or not to give their Filipina girlfriend money, and for me, the answer is a resounding no; for at least three months.

This is for a couple of reasons:

1. You can’t buy love

2. You’ll be establishing yourself as a sugar daddy now; if you’re just looking for a woman that will let you dominate and control her in exchange for cash, then by all means. But if you want a true genuine loving relationship, then the answer is no.

It’s okay if you want to help her out later on, but no money should change hands for the first three months. I like to follow the three-month rule because usually, that’s how long it takes to see if she’s legit or not. Don’t be fooled by her insistence that “Oh, I’m not like them.” Her actions will tell you whether she is like them or not.

If she asks for money right away, you already know she’s a gold digger, but after a month or so, if she asks for money and you decline, see how she reacts. If you see her pulling back, taking longer to respond to your messages, or making excuses to cut your conversations short, then thank God because you’ve discovered that she’s a gold digger.

If You Do Decide to Send Her Money

If you decided that sending her money is the right thing to do then the best way to do it is to use Wise to transfer it directly into her GCash account. Almost every Filipino has GCash (an e-wallet). There are several reasons to use Wise (formally Transferwise). Namely, it’s cheaper than Western Union or the other remittance companies plus you get a better exchange rate.  

You can use my affiliate link to get a free transfer with Wise

 

Further reading: How to Tell if a Filipina Really Loves You

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Lanie Eguia
Lanie Eguia
2 years ago

I met my man online. We have common friends on fb. I’m not looking for anyone for whatever reasons. He added me on fb and asked about the great place to stay with. I answered him politely. Infact I address him sir everytime. Thats our first conversation. Months goes by and for me hes just wanted to know places here in the Philippines. After a couple of months he said hello again and replied hello back. And thats it the conversation stopped again. I never did initiate a conversation. After six months I posted a picture of us ( my… Read more »

Eddy Maddox
Eddy Maddox
2 years ago
Reply to  Lanie Eguia

That’s very good I’m glad

Eddy Maddox
Eddy Maddox
2 years ago
Reply to  Lanie Eguia

Sometimes I think I can trust her.and I love her very much.ive been here in the Philippines over a year.im from United States.so you know all the horror stories.i try my best to trust but at times I see things that make me wonder..she asked me once to put my income in her name.but came back later and apologized for asking that.i worked hard for my money over 30 years to be a fool.she never told me she was married before.she was married at 15 years old.a long story but now everything is put on hold to go to United… Read more »

mike schneider
mike schneider
2 years ago
Reply to  Eddy Maddox

yes walk away!! shes up to no good, look for someone else,,i know from experience, email me if u want to talk

Tey
Tey
1 year ago
Reply to  mike schneider

Im a filipina.. I never dated a foreign guys imply beacuse guys tend to think that we are always up to money when we are not..

mike schneider
mike schneider
11 months ago
Reply to  Tey

hi, im not saying all filipina, some do that just like every other country

Maurice
Maurice
1 year ago
Reply to  Eddy Maddox

Hey Eddy,

I’m in agreeance with Mike, save yourself and cut ties now. Like Mike, I know from experience too. You can email me too if you want to talk. Best to you guys!!

Kωνσταντινος
Kωνσταντινος
1 year ago
Reply to  Maurice

Hi i have a story to can we talk andi take your advises and your opinions?

Emm B
Emm B
1 year ago

I met a girl on Christian Filipina in January 2020 as soon as I saw her I knew we’d be together. She was genuinely interested in me. I told her I would come to the Philippines that next month, we were on Skype 24 hours a day. She didn’t believe or think that I would come. I did go. Make a long story short. She never asked for a dime. She was honest and upfront about everything. We got engaged and waiting for the K-1 visa. She wants to get married and start a family.

Smart Guy
Smart Guy
5 months ago
Reply to  Emm B

and once she gets pregnant she’ll go home and you’ll wind up supporting her family.

DEON
DEON
10 months ago

I met my freind in 2019 on a bussines trip to Singapore . we went back and fourth for a while but one day she called me crying . SHE has no money to send her son to school . That was June 2019 .I now support her sons schooling as the father is not to be found anywhere. she sends me all the reciepts for his school fees . I would be lying if I said she has never asked me for money other than that . but if i say no its no and she understands . Guys… Read more »

Dr DE Clawson
6 months ago

I recently concluded a seven year relationship with a Filipina, and the above phrase. ‘I am shy to ask,’ brought back some fond memories. This is the accepted phrase that foreshadows all future requests for money. I was resident in Saudi when we made contact, and I was able to fly to the PI three times during that first year. Initially there were no outright requests for money – that came much later – but she always accompanied me to Manila Airport departure gate to wait for her departure tax: $300 seemed to do it. Initially, it was fine hotels… Read more »

Dr DE Clawson
6 months ago

I recently concluded a seven year relationship with a Filipina, and the above phrase. ‘I am shy to ask,’ brought back some fond memories. This is the accepted phrase that foreshadows all future requests for money. I was resident in Saudi when we made contact, and I was able to fly to the PI three times during that first year. Initially there were no outright requests for money – that came much later – but she always accompanied me to Manila Airport departure gate to wait for her departure tax: $300 seemed to do it. Initially, it was fine hotels… Read more »

Tony
Tony
1 month ago

Asking for money from foreigners is a common practice in the Philippines. Many, even asking for money from people they don’t know and never meet on the Internet for various reasons. They may use beautiful photos, or make pornographic videos for you. Some of them ask for money after work and some are professional. This is how they work and live But there are still a lot of lechers who give money, so more and more Filipino women use this way to survive So don’t do it again, it will kill them for all their life not wanting to look… Read more »