The Filipino culture is quite passionate–especially in terms of love. It’s not difficult to tell if her feelings are real once you know what to look for. First and foremost it’s common for people in The Philippines to fall in love quickly. I was certainly freaked out 3 years ago when I began to feel love vibes from the girl I was talking to after only two weeks!
Many thoughts went through my head ‘am I being played?’ ‘is this too good to be true?’ ‘am I prepared for an intercultural relationship?’ etc. After meditation and prayer, I decided to give it a go (cautiously). That girl is now my fiance. This article should help you answer the same questions I had when I went through this.
Signs a Filipina Likes You
- You eat very well when you’re with her
- She calls often
- She tries to win you over
- She is jealous
- If she makes fun of you
- She defends you
- A Filipina likes you if she wants the best for you
My Street Cred
While I haven’t dated every single Filipina on the planet, the truth is people of certain cultures do tend to have similar characteristics, especially when it comes to dating and courting rituals. Having dated several Filipinas and growing up in California, where the Filipino culture is strong, I know enough about Filipinas to know when a Filipina is serious about me or just playing games.
Sign 1: She calls often
A Filipina in love will seek to be around you often whether it’s in person or virtually. People in love will call often and try to integrate you into their social circles. If her feelings are genuine then she should be introducing you to her friends and family to have them evaluate you.
Sign a Filipina doesn’t like you: you don’t hear from her
You don’t hear from her for long spans of time. I don’t care what her excuses are: whether she says she has exams, her boss is making her put in extra hours on the job, or even a death in the family. There is no reason to go days and days without hearing from someone that says they love you.
Sign 2: She’s trying to win you over
Filipinas are trained to want to serve their husbands in order to win them over. Whether you consider this to be a good or bad thing is up to you but culturally that’s the way it is. That’s why a Filipina in love will often talk about what she will do for you such as cooking your favorite meal, making sure your shirts are ironed, and rubbing your back when you get home from work, etc.
Sign she doesn’t like you: talks about what you can do for her
If she is always talking about ‘when I get my papers’ or saying things like ‘oh honey I hope you know how to fix cars because my brother’s car is on the fritz’, that’s a bad sign. It means she’s trying to think of ways she can use you besides your money. Many scammers use this to make themselves feign feelings for you.
Sign 3: Shows jealousy
If you are dating Filipinas online properly you should never just settle for the first or second girl you talk to right away. You have a lot of options and it’s important that you evaluate them carefully–and of course, pray/meditate on it. A Filipina that is in love will start asking if you are chatting with other girls and show jealousy if she thinks you are.
Sign she doesn’t like you: is indifference
If she acts indifferently to you chatting with other girls that’s a very bad sign. Filipinos are very territorial and almost no Filipina, no matter how educated, is okay with a guy she likes talking to other girls. For more info read my article on Filipina loyalty.
Sign 4: She makes fun of you
If she’s in love with you that means she’s comfortable with you and she’ll show that by making fun of you. The Philippines is not a politically correct society so it’s not considered rude to make comments about someone’s weight or other defects if you know them. In fact, making fun of you is a good sign she’s comfortable with you.
Sign she doesn’t like you: She lets other people make fun of you
Now I want to make a very important distinction here! If you catch her only making fun of you behind your back in her native tongue that’s a very bad sign! She should never be making fun of you to her friends behind your back. If you catch her doing that end the relationship NOW! If you see her friends making fun of you and she’s not stopping them it’s because she agrees with them, sorry.
Sign 5: She defends you
Someone in love will defend you against all perceived attacks. When my father was dating his Filipina wife he told me they were with a group of friends and one of them (who didn’t know him) made a quip about his weight. She jumped right in before he could even reply telling her friend “you sure are one to talk!” in a joking but not joking way. Another time they were in Cebu and a guy tried to overcharge my dad quite a bit (more than double) for a motorcycle rental and she flatly told the guy “Do you think we are stupid? Give the real price or we go right now!”.
Sign she doesn’t like you: She is indifferent to others talking about you
Nobody in love is okay with people saying bad things about their lover-even if they are true! This is why it’s really good to learn some phrases in Tagalog. If you hear words like bobo (stupid), pangit (ugly), or taba (fat) being directed at you and she does nothing or even laughs with them that means she agrees with them and doesn’t love you, sorry.
Sign 6: She wants the best for you
A buddy of mine was dating a Filipina. Now you see he’s a total geek who cares way more about computer code than his appearance. One day he told me that he wanted to go out to the grocery store but his girlfriend wouldn’t let him go out with a wrinkled shirt. She insisted he let her iron it because she didn’t want any of the neighbors to think poorly of him. He told me that’s when he knew she was the one to be his wife.
Sign 7: You eat well when you’re with her
“The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”, we’ve all heard that axiom and there’s no place that takes it to heart more than the Philippines. One of the ways Filipinas show their love is through cooking for you. All but the most westernized women in Manila will do their best to make sure you are pleased with their cooking. I remember when I first started dating my fiance I began losing weight. It upset her so much as she saw it as a personal failing on her part. She wanted me to eat well and be satisfied with her cooking. She saw my intentional weight loss as a sign that she wasn’t doing that. If you’re dating a Filipina and you’re not eating well; run!
How to Know if a Filipina Likes You – Trust Your Instincts
Here’s the thing, love is always about the little things. When someone really loves you, you will feel it. It doesn’t need to be said. Let us not forget Matthew 7:16 know them by their fruits. Put another way–actions speak louder than words. Most Filipinas falling in love will try to hide it until they’re sure the feeling is mutual. If she’s declaring love after the first few chats then that’s not good. If, however, you start to see the above signs, and even better her trying to hide them, then you can know her feelings are real.
There are three types of guys that look for wives in The Philippines. The first is the gullible. This guy is so desperate and gullible that he will believe anything a nice pair of legs tells him.
The second is the paranoid. This guy has been burned and is so suspicious of any woman. He’s so suspicious that he ends up driving away all the good women and only the gold diggers are willing to tolerate his constant accusations.
The third is a guy who is confident and trusts his instincts. He knows there are good and bad women in all cultures and is willing to give a woman a chance. He also realizes that western men who are married to Filipinas are quite happy. He also knows that he doesn’t have to marry the girl he just met tomorrow. Oh and he doesn’t meet women in bars since a study showed that’s the WORST place to meet a woman.
Extra Resources
- Best Sites to Meet Filipinas
- How to Make a Filipina Fall in Love With You
- Don’t Trust Filipinas! (with these traits)
